Hyderabad: Saaray Hindostan mein shadian dopehar ki honay lagi hain. Koi yaqeen kere ya nah kere Hyderabad mein bhi zohar mein hi shadian horahee hain. Nah baarat nah dhoom dhadaga, Nah naach ganay nah patakhe, Nah beauty Parlor, Aur nah hi sirf ek din ke liye shirwanyani aur dulhan ke ek raat ke jodey. Har shar mein kher to hota hi hai, Lekin itna bada kher hojayiga yeh kisi ko khabar nahi thi ke ulma aur samaji tanzeemen salha saal se chilla rahi theen ke saadgi ikhtiyar karo, Koi suneney tayyar nahi tha lekin sirf do teen mahinay ke coronavirus ne hamein musalman kardiya . Majburan hi sahi, Loog police ke dar se pachaas ya so mehmanon par ektafa karkay yeh shaan se keh rahay hain ke shadi Alhamdulillah Sunnat ke mutabiq saadgi se hogayi. ( Bashart-e-kay un se jahez kitna liya hai yeh nah poucheen )
Kal taq yahi loog they jo ladki walon se shadi ke din ke khanay aur wo bhi paanch so mehmanon se kam par raazi nahi hotay they. Agar un se saadgi se karne ko kaha jaye, Hadees Nabawi sunai jaye to fori javaaz laatay they k khana khilana sunnat hai, Dawat qubool karna sunnat hai
jis ki jo istetat hai karna chahiye
Ladki walay agar khusi se khilain to jaaiz hai
Shadi zindagi mein ek baar hoti hai
Kya mehmanon ko bhooka bhaij den. Hamara khandan bohat bada hai
Agar inhen Quran ka farmaan sunaya jaye ke fuzool kharchi karne walay shetan ke bhai hain, Aur aisay shetan ke bhaieyon ki taqrebaat ka Boycott karna farz hai to wo hamara mazaaq udatay, Hamein shiddat pasand, Extremist aur Backward kehte they. Lekin ab Coronavirus ke hathon yeh khud itnay shiddat pasand hogaye hain ke kal tak jo paanch so ya hazaar barate ke baghair shadi ku namomken samajte the.
Raton ki shadian ruknay se fuzool kharchay to bohat saaray ruk gaye, Allah kere Coronavirus ke baad bhi yeh roshni qaim rahay. Lekin do nahosate aur baqi hain, Jo nah sirf sharai tor par qatee najaaiz hain balkay musalman ki gurbat-o-iflaas ka ahem sabab hain. Ek hai shadi ke din ka khana, Dosray jahez ki hawas. Aisi kayi ittela mili hain ke 500 ya 1000 mehmanon ki dawat ka jo kharcha bach gaya is pesey ko ladke walon ko naqad day kar ya jahez mein izafah karkay compensate kardiya gaya. Kahin par yeh harkat ladki walon ny khud zid karkay ki hai aur kahin ladke walon ny be sharmi jin logon ne maang kar liya wo itnay baday mujrim nahi hain, Wo loog jinhon se zabaan se to kaha ke hamein kuch nahi chahiye lekin ”jo aaraha hai anay do“ ki policy par amal karte huve wusool kiya hai, Wo qabil maffi nahi hain. Kyunkay agar waqai yeh khuddar hotay to hargiz haath nah lagatay aur wapas karte.
Din ki shadion se dono taraf ke maa baap aur dada, dadi yaqeenan khush nahi hain lekin dulah aur dulhan zaroor khush hain. Aaj ki nojawan nasal fuzool rusmoon aur fuzool kharchiyon ko hargiz pasand nahi karti lekin badon ki wajah se hatyar daalnay par majaboor hojati hai. Social Reform ke jitne Programmes Collages par hotay hain, Hum Student se ehad nama sign kerwatay hain, Ladke aur ladkiyan jin mein Hindu bhi hain aur Musalman bhi, Saaray bakhushi sign karte hain ke koi jahez nahi len ge, Koi chhichhoray rasam-o-rivaaj ko nahi honay den ge, Aisay sign karne walay Student ke taqreeban 10,000 forms hamaray paas jama hain, Lekin jab un se shadi ke baad mulaqaat hoti hai to kehte hain ke hum neh bohat mana kiya lekin badon neh hamari ek nah chalne di. Yeh saaray khandan ke barray khud apni bhi aur apni aulaad ki bhi duniya aur akhirat dono kharab karre coronavirus hai.
Social Reform Society ke naib sadar Azmatullah Khan sahib aur un ke partners janab Fasihuddin sahib ney mukammal sunnat par jahez aur khanay ke baghair nikah karne walon ke liye shadi khanah free dainay ka elaan kiya. Pooray ek saal mein sirf ek nojawan ney nikah sunnat ke mutabiq kiya aur wo nojawan nomuslim tha jo ek Bank mein manager tha. Warna pedaishi musalman to kayi aeye aur hamaray kayi ghantay barbaad karkay gaye. Har ek ney yahi kaha ke koi jahez, Joda ya khana nahi le rahay hain. Lekin jab hum ney ladki walon se cross check kiya to pata chala ke ladke walon ney kaha to hai ke kuch nahi chahiye, Lekin dainay se mana nahi kiya hai. Yeh ek aisi chaal hai jis mein shikaar karne ki zahmat bhi uthani nahi padtee, Shikaar khud jaal mein phas jata hai. Mukhtasir yeh ke ek saal mein shadi khanah muft honay ke bawajood kisi pedaishi musalman ney sunnat ke tareeqay par nikah karne par razamandi pesh nahi coronavirus ki.
Asal fitnah ladki walay: Aisa nahi hai ke maang karne walay sirf ladke walay hotay hain. Aksariyat ladki walon ki hai jis ney chalan ko kharab kiya hai. Halaank kayi aisay nojawan hain jin ke paas qabliyat hai aur wo bakirdar hain, Lekin ladki walon ko well settled ladka chahiye, NRI chahiye, Zaati ghar wala chahiye. Is ke liye ladki walay ziyada se ziyada raqam kharch karne tayyar ho jatay hain chahay karzz lena pade, Chahay ladkiyon ke bhaiyon ko Driveri karni pade. Is ke nateejay mein ladkiyon ki umrein 30 saal se ziyada ki hora hee hain. Aur agar kahin ladki ziyada taleem haasil karkay kamanay lagey to kayi maa baap jaan boojh kar kuch din aur kamaai jama karne ki hawas mein ladkiyon ko umar-raseedah kar rahay hain. Mujhe Banglore ka ek waqea yaad aaraha hai. Ek bohat hi khobsorat ladki ke liye 2 ladkoon ke rishtay aaye. Ladki ki maa ny dono ke muhaly ki masajid se yeh maloom karwaya ke dono mein se namaz ka ziyada paband kon hai. Pata chala ke ek nojawan fajar bhi kabhi nahi chhodta, Lekin dosra nojawan kabhi jummay mein hi nazar aata hai. Lekin masla yeh tha ke pabandi se namaz padhnay wala berozgaar aur karaye ke ghar mein rehta tha. Aur dosra ladka Ameer gharane ka tha. Ladki ki maa ne namazi nojawan ko muntakhib karliya, Aaj wo banglore ki ek badi Industry ka maalik hai. Mein is ka naam to nahi likh sakta, Lekin aap mujh se milein tu zaroor bataoga Insha Allah
Pehlay Nikah ya phele career?: Rasool Allah ? ne pehlay nikah baad mein career ka hukum diya lekin pehlay career ke chakkar mein ladke aur ladkiyan dono apni umroon ke behtareen hissay ko zaya karne par majaboor hain. Agar un ki shadi bees ikees saal mein kar di jaye to wo saari zindagi maa baap ke bhi farmanbardar aur ek dosray ke wafadar rehtay hain kyunkay bhukay ko waqt par sookhi rootti bhi mil jaye to wo shakkar ke saat pet bhar khata hai warna pet bhara hun tu Biryani mein bhi kuch na kuch nuqs nazar aata. shadi jald karkay wohi paisa jo mehngi shadi khaanoon par barbaad kiya jata hai isi pesey se dono agay taleem haasil kar saktay hain aur career bana satke hain. lekin bachon ki planning karni parre gi. bachay agar teen chaar saal late ho jaien to koi qayamat nahi toot parre gi. yaqeenan mazhabi tor par yeh zehnon mein bthadya gaya hai ke family planning karna bohat bara gunah hai. Woh ramz shoq jo posheeda lailaha mein hai triqِ Sheikh faqehana ho to kya khahe.
Is ka hal yeh hai ke ek kaghaz par bachho ki paidaiesh ko teen chaar saal roknay ka gunah lekhiye, Aur dosray colum mein shadi waqt par nah honay ki wajah se aaj nai nasal kya kya badkariya karne par majaboor hai tamam badkariya likhiye aur andaza lagaye ke kon sa gunah ziyada bada hai. Maa baap aulaad jawan hojane ke baad un ke zehnon mein kiya chalta hai, Is se bilkul waqef nahi hute, Aur na hi unke jazbaat ka maa baap ku andaza huta hai. Kayi Shareef gharanon ke ladke saron par topian pehan kar aur ladkiyan gharon se burqa pehan kar nikalti hain, Baher yeh ladke ladkiyan kya kya karte hain is se har shakhs waaqif hai, Lekin phir bhi har shakhs aankh band karkay doodh pi raha hai, Yeh samajh raha hai ke dosaron ke beta beti aawara ho saktay hain, Mere nahi.
Corona aur jahez. Dono virus hain: Loog mehsoos nahi karte ke yeh shadian bhi coronavirus ki terhan ka ek virus hain. Is ko epidemic kehte hain, Yani ke ”Waba“. waba phelnay wali cheez ku khete hain. Coronavirus 1 shakhs se dosray shakhs ko lagta hai. Shadion mein Haraam kharchi ka shoq bhi ek Jathani se Dewaron Nandon aur behnoon ko lagta hai, Agar baday bhai ya badi behan ki shadi dhoom se ho to chhootay bhaiyon aur chhoti behnoon ki shadian bhi aisi hi karna laazmi hojata hai. Coronavirus mein marnay walon ki tadaad Hindustan mein sirf 50000 hai. Jabkay jahez ki wajah se khudkushi, Qatal, Zakhmi, Infanticide aur police muqadmaat ki tadaad lakhoon mein hai. Corona ki wajah se logon ko ilaaj ke liye maali tor par sakht tangi ka saamna hai, Shadion ke liye bhi jo ek ghar par maali pareshaaniya aati hain is se har shakhs waaqif hai. Is terhan corona ka muqaabla shadion se nahi kiya ja sakta. Allah ke Nabi ke tareeqay se hatt kar, Sunnat se baghaawat karkay ki janey wali shadian coronavirus se kayi gunna badh kar khatarnaak hain. Is liye jis terhan Corona se apne aap ko bachanay ke liye Social Distancing zurori hai, Isi terhan muashray ko tabahi se bachanay ke liye aisi shadion, Aisi Mangniya, Jahez ya jooday ki raqmon aur baratiyon ke khanay wali shadion se nah sirf Social Distancing zurori hai balkay aisay logon ka mukammal samaji Boycott Social Boycott bhi zurori hai, Warna un ki waba poooray muashray ko tabah kardalti hai.
Agar shadian waqt par ho jaien to faiday is terhan shadian dopehar mein karne se logon ko andaza hogaya ke kitney kharch bach gaye, Kitney loog karzz lainay se bach gaye, Kitni haraam karrian khatam hogyin. Saadgi se Nikah karne ke hukum ka yeh to ek hissa tha, Agar jahez aur jode ki raqam aur mehngay khaano ko bhi band karkay poori shadi Nabi ke hukum ke mutabiq karlen to faiday dekhte jayye. Ladki boojh nahi, Rehmat hai yeh saabit hojayiga. Warna aaj ladki ek bohat bada boojh hai. Gurbat-o-iflaas ka sabab hai. Agar aap kisi ki beti, Behan, Bhanji ya bhateeji ko jahez aur khanay ki bheek liye baghair shadi karkay layein ge to kal koi aap ki beti, Behan, Bhanji ya bhateeji ko bhi aisay hi karkay le jaayegaa. Agar aaj aap apne sasur aur saloon par boojh nahi banin ge to kal dosray bhi aap par ya aap ke biton par boojh nahi banin ge. Ladkiyan peda honay par waqai khushi hogi ke ghar mein rehmat aayi hai.
Shadian waqt par hon gi. Ayashi, Aawara gardi aur be hiyai kaafi hadd tak khatam hojayigi. Nai nasal buri aadato aur buri sohbaton se bach jaayegi aur un mein ahsasِ zimma daari peda hojayiga. 11 August, 2020 ko honay walay Bangalore fasaad par ghhor ki jiye. Kisi ne Rasool Allah ki Facebook par gustaakhi ki. Firqa paraston ne mauqa ka faida uthaya aur gharon ko, Gadiyon ko aag lagadi, Sara ilzaam Musalman par lagadiya gaya. Sawal yeh hai ke gustaakhi karne walay ne aisa kyun kya? kyunkay is ke paas hamaray Rasool ka image waisa hi hoga jaisay hamara aaj kirdaar hai.
Musalman mein jhoot, Dhoka, Sood ka lain deen, Sharaab, Qatal-o-Qabza waghera ke mauzo par hum phir kisi aur waqt guftagu karen ge, Yahan hum sirf shadion ki baat karte hain. Agar ghair Muslim, Hamaray ﷺ Nabi ke Nikah ke tareeqay ko amli tor par hamari zindagion mein dekh len to koi ajab nahi ke woh saaray imaan le ayen, Kyunkay un ka muashra shadion ki wajah se jitna tabah hai wo hum se kahin ziyada hai. Hamaray haan to phir bhi kayi aisay sachey Musalman hain jo ladki walon se ek rupiya bhi kharch karwaye baghair sunnatِ nikah ki takmeel karte hain, Lekin un ke haan baghair jahez ke shadi hatta ke kayi ladke ladkiyan mohabbat ki shadi ke naam par court Marriage kar lete hain, Lekin shadi ke baad jahez ke jhagde shuru ho jatay hain. Agar yeh loog dekh len ke musalman ki shadi chahay wo koi crore patti ho ya ghareeb, Mukammal un ke paighambar ke tareeqay par hoti hai, Nah mangni nah jahez, Nah Honda nah baarat, Masjid mein Nikah karte hain, Mehar ada karte hain aur apni hesiyat ke mutabiq saadgi se valima karte hain to is se hamaray Nabi ka image har mazhab ke liye ek model ban jaayegaa. Insha Allah
Tamam qaryin se darkhwast hai ke ab inn dopehar ki shadion ko mustaqil chalan banalen aur fuzool kharch karne walay jin ke armaan Nabi ke tareeqay ke khilaaf hain, Un ke armanon ka hissa nah banin aur un ki taqrebaat shadi ke sath aisa hi bartao karen jaisay ke Coronavirus ke mareezon ke sath karte hain.